Celeste+L's+OpEd+Article

Leave the Men Behind!

Love is all and well in its own respect but when life is geared toward idealizing that one moment, that one person, that one love, I frankly find it pathetic. We experience this physical reality for more then a convoluted search for Mr. Right; I believe we are here to contribute to the planet, to society, and ultimately to ourselves. It is downright foolish when I hear women speak of that special someone as their sole purpose here on earth. Simply because we are here for so much more, we are here to cure diseases, to defy the impossible, to live a life of intellectual bliss, and to enjoy the complexities of the world as well as the self.

The problem with women feeling as though they are here to meet that one special man is that there is nothing more to it, I say “ok you want a man, and?” There is no “and!” I once asked my friend what her biggest fear was and she said “ending up alone.” I found that terribly sad and a bit demeaning towards women kind. I thought, “there are so many things in life to be afraid of and you are afraid of not having a man?” It is irrational fear such as this that lead to a life long relationship of abuse and neglect, it is ignorance such as this that lead to the willingness of a submissive women, it is insecurity such as this that lead to an unhealthy obsession with the opposite sex, and it is narrow mindedness such as this that lead toward a disconnection with the self. So I say, leave the men behind! Lets triumph without them before we commune with them, lets fight for the self before we search for the whole, lets live life for our own before we take on another.

This need for a man, for love, for acceptance is unhealthy and a danger to oneself simply by the fact that it holds the potential to formulate the idea of “I am incomplete.” The proposal of needing a man or needing marriage to complete you is utterly perplexing in the sense that it then states “I cant do it on my own” or “I am not good enough.” Again becoming a danger to the self by hindering self-awareness, self-love, and personal growth. The primal connection in which true and intimate love is shared should always be with oneself first. As I stated before, let’s leave the men behind and let the soul flourish before deeming him our sole purpose if at all.