Lucy+E’s+2017+OpEd+Article


 * What Everyone Needs To Hear About Lying **

Lies, a term we are all unfortunately familiar with. We all have lied, been lied to, and will lie again. That’s just the sad truth. We tell ourselves various lies, and justify them by being “little harmless lies.” When your friend asks if her hideous pants look good on her, you reassure her with a kind white lie. “Oh yes! You’re rockin’ ‘em!” all while you’re thinking to yourself, “Those pants are not flattering, but this little lie can do no harm, it’ll make her feel confident, and I wouldn’t want to upset her.” We constantly lie to the people in our lives. “Yes Coach, I ran this weekend.” “Yes Mom, I finished my homework.” “Sorry Guys, I’m too busy to hang out tonight.” All of these come across as “little harmless lies.” We neglect to see the consequences. Lying hurts the soul, kills relationships, requires the brain to remember more, and will eventually come back to haunt you. The biggest lies are the ones we tell ourselves. We lie to ourselves because we are scared of failure, ashamed, guilty, hurt, and much more. “Yes I’m okay.” “Yea, I’m over him.” “No, he didn’t hurt me.” “Oh well, I tried my best.” All these lies hold us prisoner in our own brain. Stop telling yourself that you’re okay and allow yourself to heal and deal with the problem correctly. Put yourself out there. Explore things outside of your comfort zone. Lying does no good to the people around you, including yourself. It creates a barrier against you and the harsh truth. Don’t let yourself settle for less, reach for the skies and thrive off of your potential. Small or big, a lie is a lie.