Daniel+C’s+2017+OpEd+Article

The Loss of Relationships and Respect for Parents Because of Drugs



Parenting is one of the hardest tasks out in the world, the idea that you have to raise a human life for years until they are stable  enough to live on their own is mind blowing. Not to mention having to teach them the skills for life and instilling your ideals in this child, good or bad, hoping the child will be a kind person to others and himself/herself, respecting the parents and hoping he/she will do what they're supposed to, hoping they stay on the track for a successful life can be even harder. But what I truly cannot wrap my head around is when the child in question is given all this, a great opportunity at life, stable life, a loving family will turn around and spit on the opportunity they were given, an opportunity on life that some kids could never dream of, the blatant disrespect and disregard some kids will show their parents after they were offered a chance at life. All this because they decided to make a stupid decision and pick up some bad habits. Habits they thought were okay to put against the trust of their parents.

 More than likely these issues are brought up because the child has been using some sort of drug. These issues will then come up with the parents and the ideals of the child and parent clash causing issues between the two. Obviously the parents wanting the kid to stop and the kid seeing no problem and wanting to continue. Now this is where things can go two ways

Scenario 1: The child will figure out where they went wrong understand that what they're doing is terrible for their health and overall life, also that it is illegal and they could go to jail for what they are doing.

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Scenario 2: The child will only see their side of the story, disregard anything their elders have to say, and continue to butt heads with the people who raised them and completely show no sign of respect. Thus continuing leading their life into destruction.

And child two is who I have problems with. Kids who refuse to see what they are doing to destroy their own lives and people close to them. Showing the people that raised them no respect at all, the work they put in and life experiences they lost because they thought it would be a better idea to raise what they thought what would have been a nice loving human being. But all they really got was someone who loves to spit in the face of hard work. The ignorance some of these kids have about what they do and put in their body is almost laughable. I am someone who's had to deal with these things, someone close to me throwing their life away as I stand around and watch. I look as they continuously make the wrong decisions, as they show no remorse for the out come. As I look at my mom and dad who I believe are true heroes shut down by someone who refuses to follow their rules, I stand in shock just listening to the things said to them, things I never thought should be said to parents are thrown in the air is if he were talking to dirt.

 The unconditional love a mother and father have for their child is immeasurable, no matter what, a parent will not give up on their child, but as long as their child falls deeper and deeper into a whole, continuing drugs, not listening to their parents, not giving the respect that is so obviously required it becomes very obvious what side is putting in the effort to keep some kind of relationship up while the other is trying to push it off a cliff. While the distant relationships fade your parents will never but as long as the disrespect, ignore for help, showing no effort to get better its the respect between both party's that does seem to start fading.

 A relationship with your parents should be unbreakable, ever lasting and letting stupid decisions get in the way of that relationship should be a huge wake up call to anyone in a bad situation where you and your parents are at odds. Never let a bad thing ruin something beautiful. Unfortunately to those who choose not to get better I hold no remorse and think no one else should either, the opportunity that was given was a gift that anybody would love to have, and to take advantage of it is pitiful, I would hope nobody would care for someone who through a once in a lifetime opportunity in the trash.