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 The Bachelor Scandal “The most dramatic season yet”, something Chris Harrison says at least ten times throughout every season of the Bachelor/Bachelorette. This season may have been just that. What man in his right mind goes on a dating show just to end up breaking one girls heart, after he picked her out of 25 women? Clearly the show is all about girls competing for one guys heart, but what douche proposes to one girl just to call it off one month later and run back to the girl who’s heart he broke a month before?

Arie Luyendyk may have been the second guy in Bachelor history to run back and propose to the girl that could be declared as the “runner-up”, but he definitely wins for douchiest breakup. First, you tell the final two girls you love them and have strong feelings for both, yet you were able to get down on one knee and propose to just one girl? I just don’t get how someone can have such strong feelings and tell two girls you love them and end up breaking one girls heart. Although, in the end he broke both girls hearts. I feel like 99% of guys just do what feels right in the moment and at least 70% of them regret the decision they make.

Now, to really get into the douchey move that Arie made. He shows up in LA to tell Becca that he is still in love with Lauren and wants to get back together with her. Leaving Becca heartbroken he sits there like an idiot just staring at her while she bawls. At least have the decency to stand up and leave and let her have the time she needs. Instead you are an idiot and you stay there until she finally has to tell you to leave, then you proceed to return two minutes later. Why the heck would you have the right to do what you please after telling the girl you proposed to one month earlier that you are breaking it off with her, for the girl she competed against for your heart for so long. No guy should be able to live with themself if they continue to tell the girl that they are engaged to that they love you, but in reality he is still thinking about other girl and how much he loves her. Women are human and tend to be more understanding than men. Arie should have had the decency to tell Becca and not show up with her thinking he was there to spend time with her, when really he was there to break her heart.

On another note, why the heck would Lauren ever go back with a guy who had broken her heart a month before and just called off an engagement with another girl. Then she proceeds to accept the engagement another month or so after getting back with Arie. Nobody is innocent except Becca in this whole situation. Arie is just a douche who breaks girls hearts to do what he feels is best for himself and doesn't care how that really makes him seem. Personally, I believe that if all girls were as strong and encouraging as Becca throughout the whole thing, there would be a lot less heartbreak in the world. So, props to her.