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 * Let’s talk about sex baby **

Yesterday, my mom accusingly texted me, “Tell me the truth, what is actually going on at the beach?” The only answer was skin cancer, as I was lying on a blanket with my best friends naively tanning our pale skin. When I got home, she proceeded to ask me if there were boys at the beach. Well I’m pretty damn sure that there were males somewhere at the beach, just not with me.

But, so what if there was god-forbid a guy with my friends and I. And while we are at it, who cares if I have sex, Mom. Why do you get to make inappropriate jokes all the time but then when it comes to me, sex gets plagued as a taboo.

If I wanted to have sex, why should it be anyone else’s business besides mine and his. Why does it need to feel like something that should be hidden? Why does my mom feel like she needs to monitor my every where about just in case I even had the slight inkling to kiss a boy?

Sex is a positive thing. In a positive sexual experience, feel good hormones are released that can have beneficial effects on the body and mind. It can make someone feel more confident and less stressed. Sexual intimacy can bring two people together in a exceptional way. As a society, we need to accept sex.

Why is the female virginity something that is so special? Why does it feel like a gift that can only be given once? Why is it something that had been romanticized not a larger deal than it is? Men are exalted while women are excoriated.



The topic of sex is one that is danced around much too often. In schools we are required to take a health class that barely touches the subject of sex and only grazes the first layer. Or even worse than that, abstinence-only curriculum is being taught; which leads only to uneducated teenagers that think you can get pregnant from giving a blowjob.

We should instead teach teenage girls and boys that sex can be GOOD; when you find someone you are comfortable with it is okay to feel intimacy. We should teach that in a relationship, both partners should feel equal. We should teach that in no way is either partner obligated to the other.

So let me take birth control pills because maybe I need to control my period, or maybe I am trying to be responsible and have protected sex. And let me feel okay when I go to a boy’s house. And let me not feel guilty for any of my actions.