Melissa+C's+2015+OpEd+Article

 //**Say What You Want To Say**//
 Nothing bugs me more than the people who are afraid to be upfront with what they are trying to say. Stop hinting at me that you want me to do something or try to tell me something without actually saying it. This is something someone recently said to me: Them: “I would really like it if someone drew me something” (looks around the room) “but of course I would want that person” (looks at me) “to talk with me first about what I want” (looks at me again).

 Seriously? If you wanted me to draw you something why didn’t you just say “Hey Melissa could you draw me something.” People can mention something like “This spatula is getting old maybe I need a new one” however, this does not qualify as you asking for a new spatula for Christmas. If people want something they should not be afraid to ask it upfront. Hints can easily be misinterpreted or not even noticed. How in the world do you ever get what you want? People cannot read your mind you must state it bluntly. A lot of people will not even pick up on the “hints” you're giving. When people know you give out “subtle hints” a lot they will take every comment as a hint. As Robert Frost said “Families break up when people take hints you don’t intend and miss hints you do intend.”

Beating around the bush. If you have something to say just say it. I’m sure people are capable of turning their 10 minute monologue into one minute to get their point across. People need to stop dancing around what they are trying to say. If you have something to say spit it out. Our generation cannot sit down and listen to you prattle on and on when really your point will take one short sentence. I find that people are almost afraid to tell someone something. As long as you say it in a nice way what’s the problem? Stop stalling. Your opinion is not as bad as you think it will be, there is no need to turn into the adorkable nervous movie character who talks for a long time only to say their point at the one sentence at the end.

Everyone needs to stop being afraid of other people and say what they want to. Yes, it may come across as rudely blunt but personally I would much rather have that then someone dance around everything they say. If you want something done don’t say “The trash is getting full someone should take it out,” say “Melissa come take out the trash.” You will not hurt someone’s feelings by asking/telling them to do something. Please just say what you want to say.