Mariah+B’s+OpEd+Article



= **“Dear Boys, remember the First step is yours!”** = By Mariah B. media type="file" key="mariab-muckraker-0910.mp3" In the twilight hours of conversations, the feelings are established to be mutual. A boy says “I’ll always be there for you because I’ll always be in your life no matter what role it is.” However in the days following nothing changes and the song remains the same. The elephant in the room now is: should the girl now take this opportunity or pause to make the first move and ask the boy to be HER boyfriend, some might say this is stealing the boy’s thunder but is it all that wrong if it gets things done and both sides are happy?

During modern times boys have become less and less straight forward. They rarely nowadays take the “first step” or make the first move. As a girl during these modern times I sometimes wish to go back to later dates. Visit the times when men were men, they made the first move asked the girl out and just did it, when dance cards were all important and the hit thing was the waltz. During these times the man asked the girl to dance, and took the initiative when two people had feelings for each other.

However seeing that boys rarely do this: it has become the issue that is so common for girls during today’s society. There is a difference when a boy goes blindly into a relationship when he knows not if the girl will say yes. Yet this is not the case sometimes: both sides are interested and acknowledging the fact that they do have feelings for each other! So rarely does this situation ever happen that one would think that it would be taken advantage of; but sadly no when a boy waits for unknown reasons to ask a girl out.

More and more during recent times are the roles reversed in a “modern” relationship. The girl is forced to take the first step and ask the boy out, whether it is to the movies, coffee, or if the seat is taken next to them. The reasons come in the millions for not making the first move. And yet does this dampen the situation less or make it more depressing for the girl? No. Personally, I would prefer the boy to ask the girl to go out with him and later to be his girlfriend. (Yes boys there is a difference between just going on a few dates with someone and being there boyfriend)

Back in the day, the cutest and most appropriate phrase coined was to be "going steady" with another person. This meant a commitment that is acknowledged by both sides and by others. So much of today’s “relationships” are nothing more than an hour long, or a week. These sad relationships mimic the relationship that we are shown everyday by adults with the rate of divorce rising ever aching moment.

Back to modern times, boys now barely EVER make the first move, and really that’s all girls want in the end. For you to say hello, ask us to the movies, coffee something for God’s sake! Please do not make the girl do it; we hate it but if we feel that nothing is going to be done then we are left with no choice but to ask  //Other helpful tid bits about girls: offer to pay, if we refuse you twice or more really were fine; open the door if its’ into a building or the car just do it; pay compliments when its due (a compliment is not DAMMMNN, its “WOW you look stunning, beautiful, amazing, gorgeous, perfect” any of them will work)//

//Random facts for later in life (boys): engagement rings traditionally are suppose to coast 3 paychecks; always plan something special for birthdays and anniversaries, even if something special is a home cooked meal that she doesn’t have to clean up and candles; Never make fun of her in front of company, doesn’t matter if it’s her friends, your friends, in public; be polite to her even if she doesn’t return the favor; MOST IMPORTANT if she is happy then your happy.//