Gabby+S’s+2016+OpEd+Article


 * There’s so many things to rake muck about, so this is just a big conjunction junction about a few things ppl sans penises are wondering about, observing, or experiencing in regards to their anatomy and attitudes toward it. **


 * This article is for anyone, not just those bearing a vagina. It’s a plea for the current sexual norms, with all it’s detrimental gender roles, to end. It’s a call to action for females to reclaim agency. It’s a reminder that being pro vagina doesn’t mean being anti penis. It’s a c **** ourse on being a respectful, penis wielding being. **
 * We can start with the assessment of how a female body is viewed in comparison to a males? Why does it have so many more standards and rules to reside under??? Why is male intercourse praised and female intercourse is shamed? ????? ? ? **

** Stop discrediting female sexuality by making uneducated inferences about what’s ok to say, expect, or ask of a lady. **


 * It may sound like I’m about to launch into a lecture on how the female body is over sexualized in today’s society, and while this is true in so many ways, what’s really been tugging at my heart strings lately is desexualization. **


 * In some cases, it’s **** j **** ust as hurtful as sexualization. Words and actions used to make a female (or anyone actually) feel unattractive, unordinary, gross, weird, or in any way not possessing the means to act upon her sexuality is a robbery of equal merit. **

=A woman may not want to be “desexualized,” but more likely defetishized, deshamed, or normalized. So often are feminist ideologies associated with boycotting penises or sex or sexiness but this ain’t near the truth. =


 * Just because a vagina declares that it’s interested in sex doesn’t mean it’s yielding to the patriarchy. **

= Because it’s that institution that still makes her unrecognizable to herself. That institution that reminds her every day that the thing between her legs is probably disgusting and that she ought to apologize, be ashamed, or that it smells weird, that it’s gross, and that she’s dirty. =

=When will the female anatomy be accepted as the divine portal to the heavens that it is? =

W**hen will it cease to be regarded as a rotten fish? As a chore?**

=**Penises ought to learn that womanhood comes in different shapes, colors, sizes, and textures. They ought to learn how lucky they are that any lady is willing to share something so sacred. They ought to recognize the vulnerability at hand! **=


 * Men constantly fail to do this, and this is where shame is so deeply rooted. That very root is where fear is enabled to inflate. Fear that any sexual anatomy that isn’t a penis is a disgrace or an obligation to apologize.[[image:flow 2.jpeg width="271" height="333" align="right"]] **


 * This is why a vagina is such taboo!! This is why men don’t really recognize or care to understand their female counterparts parts. This is why women are afraid to check things out for themselves. This where health class didn’t clue you tf in! This are why some ladies are afraid to stick a mirror down there to find out what’s good! **


 * Females are deemed overly emotional or [|__hysterical__] for the feelings invoked by the harsh sex culture that envelop them, leaving men with an alleged excuse not to address the very prob they've created. **


 * Nowadays sex is about acquiescing the Man and catering to his every whim. The lady is just an accessory for his pleasure. Her own pleasure is often ignored. [|__Many men__] can’t even identify the clitoris on a female anatomy chart!! Eek. **


 * To appease the peen, women are expected to to be bald and bursting with infantile omnipotence. Stupid and submissive. Smoll and helpless. In need of a big strong manly man with big muscles. **


 * Huh? Am i living inside the yellow wallpaper? Sos free me. Free HER. **


 * I know I don’t want those misogynistic attitudes smote down upon me. I would think others don't either???? So why are men allowed to say they’d “f *** **an ugly girl but not kiss her” with no repercussions? Why do sexual expectations so often appeal to the male fantasy and not the female’s? Why do bois get a victory lap every time they penetrate something and woman get a walk of shame? If someone swallowed your semen, get ready to swallow your pride, because it doesn’t make you the bigger, better, more competent person! It shouldn’t be a trophy on him or a scar on her!!!!!**


 * This is a reality at the moment because when a penis wears his masculinity he also wears his privilege. Ya wouldn’t believe it, but strangely, the socio economic “poweress” possessed by penics translates directly into the bedroom. **


 * The man is the hunter that provides for the lady folk, but after some time passes, women are performing the same jobs as men. Men don’t like feeling overpowered by something that’s supposed to be less competent, less strong, less able-bodied, or even less educated than themselves, so they lash back. **


 * That’s why they gotta feel like they run the world and that you’re submitting to them; not your own independent thoughts, because if DARE you exemplified any kind of sexual superiority his penis would shrivel up and fall off, disenfranchising his masculinity, therefore deeming him useless. **


 * But females DO LIVE this way. Without heteronormative masculinity. So is femininity some disadvantage? Is a vagina a disability? Probs, because it sounds to me like it’s proving to be…...o I don’t know…...implicitly hierarchical?? **


 * But it shouldn’t be a disadvantage. 50% of humans have gina. It should be a “distinction without a difference.” **


 * When the vast vast VAST majority of men don’t live under this recognition, it’s difficult for women to be understood when they try to communicate feelings about this. It difficult for women to even find an outlet to express this where they’ll actually be heard. **


 * What’s so commonly misconstrued is that females who stand up for themselves against the penis regime are man haters. Maybe they do hate you, but it’s kind of dehumanizing to expect or assume anything of a female, who’s conscious of herself and her desires, who doesn’t need you to make the decision for her. It’s dehumanizing to assume that females asking for necessary change are anti anything, especially anti man, because this so often is what strips girls of their sexuality, a struggle they’re already fighting to overcome. “You’re a feminist? So you’re not dtf????” Not everyone is trying to boycott the peen, some are just trying to be heard. **


 * Female empowerment conversations isn’t misandrist conversation. **


 * Just try to remember that males (especially white ones) are acting with force of centuries of institutionalized power behind them. So when men mistreat females, especially regarding his or her sexuality, he perpetuates a system that incarcerates ladies everywhere and reinforces the feeling of vulnerability that females have grown to accept as normal.[[image:flow 4.jpg width="376" height="446" align="right"]] ****

=**These sensitive circumstances need to be raked up not because we women hate you men, but because women don’t want to deal with this problematic male misconduct. **=

=Don’t feel hurt and attacked if you believe that you **yourself are the bearer or a penis yet not a contributor to the vicious cycle of sexism, because this isn’t about you in particular, it’s about culture. It’s about the precedents that have been set which still prevail. Though still watch yourself, because even if you aren't the type to catcall women in the streets, it’s so easy for men to perpetuate anti woman culture: misogynistic undertones still ooze out of ya pore when you so obviously stare at a female’s breasts when she’s attempting to speaking to you. **=


 * This muck i’ve raked is nowhere near sufficient in representing the hardship that comes with certain anatomy. Other factors such as race, class, and sexuality so significantly weigh into the female struggle, and there really is no monolithic feminist movement, but regardless of my generalness i hope u leave this page feeling at least a lil more woke than when u arrived. **


 * But rly do hear me out. Don’t relapse into your same old bigotry and hatefulness after reading. Take away at least this: **


 * Don’t assume anything about a person. Not by their actions, their looks, or their crotch. If a woman truly wants to shave her pubic hair it doesn’t mean she’s aquiesing any penis’s violent agenda, she’s just exercising her right to sex positivity. **


 * There’s a lot of really tough, preconceived notions about “sex positivity,” where girls think it means you have to be “down” or “chill” or “loose” with your sex, but it’s not that at all. It’s about a choice, a consent, and should enable a female to advocate for herself. So don’t let that fine line between self glorification and pandering to the male gaze blur. **


 * Respect ppl regardless of who and what they are, because deflecting shame isn’t always easy for females. Help her, save her, free her! Don’t let her be confined by the big strong muscle man’s grasp. Don’t deny her from accessing their own sexual power. Grant her agency. Put a pussy on a pedestal. **